Raising Real Men: Surviving, Teaching and Appreciating Boys – a book review
Wednesday, March 24th, 2010
The only problem with the book Raising Real Men: Surviving, Teaching and Appreciating Boys, is that I regret not having had the opportunity to read it earlier. Just published this January, this 253 page volume (including the detailed index) not only helps us answer those frustrated mommy questions like “WHY did you do that?” when your feisty sons behave oh, so differently than your dutiful daughters.
(The event I was recollecting as I said that was when my now-17 year old son was about seven, and wondered what would happen if he squirted the light bulb in his dresser lamp with a water pistol. The resulting minor explosion was just one of many ‘experiments’ conducted by my now-not-so-little explorer.)
We have only been blessed with one boy, but he has made quite an impact on our family. The authors of Raising Real Men have six, so they are more than qualified to write this book; actually, they are not qualified just because they have six sons; they qualify because they understand that boys – just like little girls – are a picture of the image of God, tragically marred by sin. And that our focus must be on leading our sons into godly manhood, not just trying to manage them to make our lives convenient and more pleasant. p. 25
Hal and Melanie Young, the authors of this book, clearly speak the truth as they describe our culture’s desire to feminize men and our misguided attempts to ‘change’ our boys, rather than understand them. The Youngs not only exhort us to celebrate the uniqueness of our boys, they give us very practical suggestions for how to train and ready them to use those special God-given characteristics to be the men God created them to be.
Listen to some of these intriguing chapter titles/subtitles from Part One – Virtues in the Rough:
- Resisting Feminization
- Boys Need Heroes
- Visual Media
- Heroes from History
- Bring on the Boldness
- When to Comfort, When to Encourage
- Standing Alone
- Responsibility, Then Freedom
- Learning to Stand
- What the bible Says about Leadership
- Developing the Next Generation’s Leaders
- The Biblical View of Competition
- The Puritan View of Games and Competition
- What the Bible Says about Manners
In Part Two – Civilization for the Tough, the Youngs discuss that raising manly men doesn’t mean raising barbarians. Men can and should be civilized. p. 126
Part Two is concerned with preparing a young man to interact appropriately with a world that so desperately needs his godly leadership.
How can we teach our sons the things they will need to interact in society, to lead their families, to serve God? Step by step, suiting the way God made them, in an intentional, thoughtful way… just the way we teach them everything. p. 126
Sometimes – many times – homeschooling seems overwhelming; homeschooling boys can be, especially. I loved the above quote because it is in accord with the old Puritan saying, “Do the next thing.” Let’s make a plan and just take one step at a time. This book will help you make that plan for raising your boys to be the men they were created to be.
One of my favorite chapters in Part Two is called “Your Own School for Boys.” This chapter may well be your favorite chapter, too, if you have been pulling your hair out trying to home school your boys! Melanie Young has home schooled six boys at a time and has obviously done some reading on the subject, offering us an explanation why and how boys are different than girls in the learning arena as well as many practical suggestions to get the most out of your boys. Chapter subtitles:
- Developmental Differences
- Developmental “Delays”
- Gender Differences in Learning
- Louder, Mom
- “I Think He Must Be Hyperactive…”
- “Why Do I Have to Learn This, Anyway?”
- What’s Your Goal, Son?
- The Benefit of Stress
This is great stuff! Additionally, chapters include endnotes with scriptural back up!
Other very useful information in this book pertains to teaching boys how to be faithful stewards of their money, why we need to teach them to have good manners, how the Bible looks at work roles and how to deal with male/female relationships. It even aids with considerations about choosing a college, for the college bound, and describes the counselor role we move into as our children leave the nest.
Imminently readable, warm and biblical, Raising Real Men will help you learn how to train and shape your noisy, dirty, rambunctious boys into real men who can stand on their own two feet and face the world, lead their families, and fulfill the purpose for which they were created.
Enjoy those boys!
P.S. If you would like to order this wonderful book for you and/or others, please click on the book cover image at the beginning of this post!









The Last of the Mohicans by James Fenimore Cooper - This book seems like a good place to start!
The unabridged version, while lengthy, offers a wonderful adventure and very interesting characters. You’ll need to wade through some detailed description, but the historical setting, the French and Indian Wars, is unique. Other versions of this classic include:
Oversized Picture book (Atheneum Books for Young Readers) with additional author Timothy Meis. I absolutely love that Meis took the initiative to create this vivid and memorable picture book!
Classic Starts – shorter chapter book appropriate for 2nd – 5th graders. Although not deep in content, this book presents an initial overview that students can read by themselves.
ys with 184 pages and Marvel comic illustrations. I thought this was a unique presentation!
ic Collection Audio book – for audio learners or multi-taskers! Although, I do believe all of the description might be more challenging to listen to than to read. I think the picture is more vivid when you read the words.
DVD – This is an absolute non-example of maintaining book integrity in a movie. It was disappointing that the story line barely resembled the book’s adventurous plot! You might enjoy the movie, but not based on its relationship to the book.
DVD (BBC Masterpiece Theatre mini-series) – I only discovered this version while writing this blog, so please comment if you’ve seen it. Typically, BBC Masterpiece Theatre follows the book content closely. I may have to ask for this for Christmas! 
Heidi by Johanna Spyri - This classic isn’t overly difficult in the unabridged version and could certainly appeal to a reader as young as middle school, especially girls. To get started with a different version, consider:
The Story of Heidi published by Usborne Young Reading Gift Books – hardcover book ideal for ages 8 and under. 

The Swiss Family Robinson by Johann Wyss – I read this book aloud to my children during the evening. Although the story has some fun adventure, the dialogue can be challenging and it took a while to get through the book. There is a strong Biblical emphasis in the original that isn’t always stressed in other versions.
Stepping Stone book – early reader chapter book. Again, not overly stimulating but at least a child can read it as a first experience.
Classic collection audio book – in case you don’t want to read it aloud yourself! The language in this book is lovely and you’ll appreciate it on the audio version.
Classic Disney Film – originally released in 1960, an enjoyable family treat created before Disney became politically correct.


The Hero Beowulf by Eric Kimmel and illustrated by Leonard Everett Fisher – best for ages 9 and up. I do love Leonard Everett Fisher’s illustrations! 
Treasure Island by Robert Louis Stevenson – yes, this is the poet who created my favorite childhood poem, featured in the last blog. Stevenson also wrote exciting and adventurous books that most kids love. Check out these other versions:
Hardcover version with amazing illustrations by Robert Ingpen – ideal for ages 9 and up at 192 pages. A vivid, exciting presentation of the book!
A Young Reader’s Edition of the Classic Adventure – includes some original illustrations by N.C. Wyeth, one of the greatest illustrators of classic literature. Although the illustrations aren’t ideally presented, they may entice your child to explore Wyeth more. He also painted scenes from The Last of the Mohicans. The book is 48 pages long.
DVD – Disney version released in 1950, a safe version of a classic adventure for the entire family!
To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee – due to the adult content (a black man is accused of raping a white woman), there isn’t a younger version of this book. However, Lee’s presentation and writing style handles the storyline in a delicate and tender manner. The main characters, two children and their father, invite you in immediately and when the story ends, you feel like you’ve become friends with the whole family. I really appreciate this book in so many ways that I’ve made its 40th anniversary hardcover publication our free give away book this week! 















